Discover What Is Fact And What Is Fiction When It Comes To Sex After The Baby ArrivesDebunking The Top Myths That Keep You From Getting Back On The Saddle.
With hundreds of thousands of years of experience, you’d think we would have some ancient rulebook passed down through generations on what the heck to expect post birth. Instead we have stacks of baby books making it hard to tell what’s fact, fiction, or straight up science fiction.
We’ve taken matters into our own hands to debunk the myths you’ve been told about how things will be post baby.
This list is compiled after more than 14, 704 healings with moms… I see and hear these many myths all the time.
Here Are 8 Myths About Sex After the Baby Arrives:
1. Post-partum women are ready to hit the sack 6 weeks after. We’d love to think we’ll be back to riding the rodeo in no time, but women can take anywhere between 12 weeks to 1 year before they’re ready for that kind of party. Don’t pressure yourself to giddy up cowgirl.
2. Sexual pain will go away if you just wait. Just because you got the green light doesn’t mean you should go. No one tells you that not “accommodating” your partner or feeling pain during intercourse is normal but it is. Stitches and perineal tears are the usual culprits and don’t magically disappear in 6 weeks. Roll up your sleeves girls, there’s work to be done.
3. All women are loose down there after childbirth. One of biggest myths is that your hoo-ha will be bigger. On the contrary, it will most likely feel tighter due to muscle spasms thanks to hours of instrumentation, episiotomies and perineal tears. Good thing we’ve got ways to help your nether regions chillax.
Discover What Is Fact And What Is Fiction When It Comes To Sex After The Baby ArrivesDebunking The Top Myths That Keep You From Getting Back On The Saddle.
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4. Caesarian means no sexual problems. After any major surgery you can say hello to scar tissue and scar pain. Your abdominal fascia and pelvic floor muscles are close friends which means when one is upset, it can affect the other. What’s that mean for you? Possible pelvic muscle spasms and scar therapy so you’re not stuck with painful pleasure. 
5. “Pelvic Pressure” is normal during motherhood. Feeling like something is falling out of you can be uncomfortable, even painful at times. Many women feel shame or confusion regarding their body when they don’t feel like they can perform, often distancing themselves from their sensuality. With the help of a woman’s health physical therapist, the pelvic floor muscles can be strengthened through what the French call “Perineal Re-education” which alleviates this issue. Time to educate our way back into the sack.
6. Urine control will be difficult after delivery. This one’s partly true but there’s no need to panic on date night. Just because your muscles are tired doesn’t mean you’ll need a diaper beneath that lingerie. Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles will keep things tight as a drum.
7. My partner will be grossed out by my body. While you might feel like a hot mess, your partner can’t wait to get at it again. All you need is some sass on your side and knowing that childbirth can be incredibly sexy. The hormones and brain activity that are off the charts during your grand finale are similar during childbirth. Let your partner feel that sensual moment with you and whatever follows will be an extension of that experience.
8. I won’t be able to enjoy it anymore. While challenges post birth can be consuming, there’s no need to throw in the towel on one of life’s greatest pleasures. Women who understand their nooks have better sex and are more patient as well as less anxious about their bodies. Besides, who doesn’t love swapping positions to find just the right angle? Make bedroom romps fun and listen to your body without letting it become a point of stress.
We hope that cleared up some of the floating fiction you’ve come across. Childbirth does not have to be a marathon of medical endurance. Understanding your body and letting this be the loving and sensual experience it can be allows you and your partner to connect on a level that’s deeply pleasurable for all parties involved.
Trust me, you’ll get through this. The important thing is to be prepared and have resources that will help you through the process. Get our Female Pelvic Freedom Checklist and get yourself back on track with easy to implement exercises, tools and techniques. You will feel like your old self again in no time.
